Sorry to hear about your father, but times and cultures have changed. I worked in China for six years (this century), mostly with young engineers coming from all over the country so I got to understand how a lot of them think. They are some of the nicest people you could ever meet. (A lot of what I see going on in Australia day to day would never happen in China).
I was going to write a lot more but I've already done it too often on HotCopper, and it's off topic, so I'll leave it at that.
